MIL Blames DIL That She Doesn’t Have Grandkids, Tells Son To Find A New Wife, He Kicks Her Out

Your family cannot be chosen, but your friends can. Not only do you receive a spouse when you get married, but you also gain their entire family. This includes a mother-in-law who could irritate you.

The mother-in-law of one woman is very poisonous; she even goes so far as to advise her son to file for divorce due to his wife’s infertility. He has subsequently sent his mother packing since he was deeply troubled by her parents’ opinion, but he now questions whether that was a stupid choice.

Mothers-in-law are notorious, as this man’s mother demonstrated with her outrageous request.

The couple had recently begun IVF therapy after years of trying to conceive.

When his mother saw him administering his wife’s IVF shot, she declared it to be against God’s will.

His family is upset with him now, and he’s thinking if telling his mother to get lost was a rude thing to do. The man urged her to pack her things and find another place to live right away.
OP tells the community at the start of his story that he and his wife have been married for five years and have been together for thirteen. He continues by saying that because his mother is currently separated from OP’s father and is likely to get divorced, she has been living with the couple for the past four months.

He continues by saying that he recently began IVF after he and his wife had been trying for four years to conceive. OP gives his wife an injection, which is one of the required meds for this.

After witnessing her son injecting her daughter-in-law, OP’s mother, who is among those who oppose IVF, murmured that it is against God’s will.

OP dragged her out of the room right away and urged her to stop voicing her unpleasant viewpoint. At that point, she dared to advise him to get a divorce from his wife and find a partner who could conceive him in the way that God intended.

At his breaking point, OP instructed her to gather her belongings, leave, and go stay at her husband’s or his sister’s house.

His mother made a tearful show of convincing OP that she was only attempting to act in his best interests, but he was unconvinced. He looked to the internet to see if his sister’s accusations that he is a [jerk] were accurate.

For what reason do mothers-in-law believe they always know what’s best for their kids? Even if you’re an adult who is perfectly capable of making your own decisions, they just seem to have a way of appearing entitled or outright toxic, whether they’re on your husband’s or wife’s side.

According to Tricia Johnson’s essay for Choosing Therapy, toxic people often employ subtle means of manipulation and control in their relationships, and with mothers-in-law, this toxicity may or may not be obvious to others, even their own children. This type of behavior can be extremely harmful and demeaning, leading to problems like sadness, anxiety, and low self-esteem.

Johnson claims that toxic mothers-in-law typically exhibit a recurring pattern of hostility toward other family members, including abusive, manipulative, or controlling conduct. The mother-in-law’s behavior may be deliberate, but it may also have its roots in habits she picked up from her own family.

According to Johnson, there are 12 telltale indicators of a toxic mother-in-law, including gossiping, passive-aggressive behavior, never respecting limits, assuming she’s right, making you doubt yourself, and being impossible to please.

Anne Duvaux offers 11 strategies for handling a toxic mother-in-law in her piece for Marriage.com. These strategies include letting your partner take over, avoiding upsetting her, avoiding self-judgment, staying true to yourself, and maintaining emotional distance.

Even while you might never be able to alter your mother-in-law, you do have some control over how you react to her behavior, no matter how toxic it may be. Even though she is his mother, OP has demonstrated that he will not put up with her aggressive conduct.

If you had been in OP’s position, how would you have responded? Do you believe he acted rashly or that his mother was acting inappropriately? Please share your thoughts in the comments section!

Readers quickly deduced from the comments that the man wasn’t the jerk in the scenario and that his mother had no right to disparage the couple’s individual decisions.