My partner of 14 years has left everything to our children in his will but left me out of it – should I be concerned?

A woman has disclosed that her partner has chosen to exclude her from his will and leave everything to their children.

The 50-year-old woman expressed her deep anxiety on the British parenting website Mumsnet after learning that her 14-year-old spouse had abandoned her against her will.

Since they are not married and he is ten years her senior, she continued, she questioned what would happen to her if he passed away first.
She referred to the discovery as a “red flag” and inquired about the opinions of others regarding her situation.

Many hurried to the comments section, with some claiming that the situation is “bizarre” and that he is acting “totally unreasonable.”

 

We’ve spent nearly 14 years together. We have kids. not wed. We have resided in his home. I’m 50 and he’s 60.

“Am I being crazy for being irritated now that he’s acting as he pleases and intends to leave everything to the kids?”

Since we are ten years apart in age, I can’t help but ponder what would happen to me if he passed away before me. He treats it as his property and lets anybody he wants to have it, but I think that’s a serious red flag, especially since he hasn’t proposed yet.

It seems to me that he does not truly view the United States. What are your thoughts?

“It’s strange,” one individual remarked. What kind of life does he demand from you? I’m afraid that unless he passes away while the children are still dependant on you, you won’t have many rights as an unmarried person. After having a meaningful conversation, you should begin making plans for the future.

“You both need to see a solicitor, separately and together,” another person commented. The children would ‘own’ your house if he died tomorrow, but you would probably have to reside there as their parent and legal guardian.

But more importantly, you should talk to him about why he would be pleased to see you homeless after his passing (assuming it happened after the kids grew up). That is a rather heartless way to view your spouse and your kids’ mother.

“Last week, I saw clients in exactly this situation set up a trust so she could use and enjoy his house for the rest of her life / until she goes into a care home, then on her death the house passes to his Dd,” another commenter commented. That’s what regular, respectable, single folks do.

Many people said that because her spouse is acting “cold” toward her, she should leave him.

“Yeah, that would be it for me,” one said. You must get away from him. At the very least, while you arrange your own housing, you might be eligible for the proper child maintenance. You have been the supplier of household appliances and offspring. You are now certain that you must leave.

Another person said: “If I were you, I would purchase a modest home or apartment and rent it out so that you would have a place to live after he passes away.” You might want to reconsider your relationship right now. It’s clear that he doesn’t think highly of you.

In the meanwhile, another person wrote: “Go.” This gives you all the information you require on his feelings for you.

A fourth person added: “You could actually become homeless as a result of him not taking you into consideration.” This man doesn’t respect you, so go and live on your own.

The woman disclosed that when she brings up her partner’s will, he makes her feel like she’s being “grabby.”

“You’re all so right,” she said. I actually sleptwalked into this, but every time I bring it up, I get the impression that I’m being mercenary and grabbing.

 

His expression seemed to be saying, “Ah, this is the true reason she’s with me.” It seems inappropriate for me to even bring it up.

One person said: “Remember that even though none of us can predict exactly what the future holds, you are much younger than him and could spend a significant portion of your later years caring for him, which could prevent you from saving money or a pension of your own.”

“Even though I provide full-time care for my husband, everything we own is ours together, and he contributed more materially to the marriage. I’m not sure I would be making that sacrifice for someone who seems so indifferent to my safety and well-being as your partner does, especially after two children and years of marriage.”

“This is ridiculous and no way to conduct an adult relationship,” another person said. I’m shocked that despite having kids, you still can’t agree on important financial issues.

“See a lawyer right away, ideally together so he can hear it all.”

“You know where you stand, and you can see what type of man he is and what he thinks of you,” someone else remarked.

“You must stay in the relationship, know what you know, and start thinking about your financial future if you don’t want to move out (with or without the kids).”You cannot make him leave you anything or give you any assurance.Your only option is to start investing and saving heavily for yourself.

To receive promotions and income increases, work full-time and change jobs every two to three years.Stop immediately and concentrate on your career if you are handling more than half of the housework, etc.